Where The Hell Is My Prince Charming?

Gorgeous cartoon from Stuff No One Told Me, via Erika Lust. I think we need to make this point a little more often. Romance novels are often derisively called “porn for women” and, while this is inaccurate in a lot of ways, it does make a point about unrealistic fantasies. Both porn and romance/fairytales offer a fantasy version of the opposite sex and depict sex and relationships in a very Read More …

Mark Twain Posts

If voting made any difference they wouldn’t let us do it. Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. Sometimes I wonder whether the world is being run by smart people who are putting Read More …

Beautiful Man Photos

I’m about to run away for a few days and thus this blog and my twitter feed will be mostly neglected. So here’s some hot pics to tide you over. This is Brad, the June Centerfold at For The Girls. Posting these pics I realise I haven’t been putting enough nice smut up for you to enjoy. Been busy with other things and with the ongoing saga of our new Read More …

Questioning The Moral Panic About “Sexualisation Of Children”

It keeps popping up on TV talk shows and is used as a debate silencer by right-wing pundits. Religious groups use it to put pressure on politicians to create greater censorship. It’s the term “sexualisation of children” and I suspect that it’s bullshit. I’ve been meaning to write a blog post on this for a while but today I’ve found that Australian researcher Catherine Lumby has pretty much summed things Read More …

Another Year Older And Deeper In Smut

It was my birthday yesterday. I’m now 37. This is a prospect that is not very promising. I’m rapidly heading for 40 and the wrinkles are getting deeper. Before I was in my mid-thirties which is perfectly respectable but I think 37 is a bit of a tipping point. Like most people, I still think I’m really only about 21 inside and I don’t think anyone really accepts the age Read More …

Hot Guys

[flashvideo file=video/malepromo.flv /] Here’s a little promo I made for For The Girls with a bit of hot guy footage. I’m putting it up here because I’ve neglected my blog for a week. I meant to write up something new but my PC decided to fail today. Thankfully I’ve got it back from the geeks and it’s OK. I’ve had a small adventure with The Guardian – they quoted me Read More …

Erika Lust Interview

Our latest update at For The Girls features an exclusive interview with Spanish erotic filmmaker Erika Lust. I reviewed her film Life Love Lust last week and absolutely adored it. Its three stories are engaging, well executed and very sexy. One of the more impressive things about this movie is the stunning cinematography. Erika says she shot it in high definition on a Canon 7D. This is the camera that Read More …

Australia Has Its First Female Prime Minister

“Ladies and Gentlemen, I give you… Fanta Pants.” – Marieke Hardy It’s been a bit of a whirlwind 24 hours. I’ve got no work done at all because I’ve been glued to Twitter, news sites and the TV as the Australian political landscape shifted before my eyes. Australia now has its first female prime minister, Julia Gillard. She was not directly elected to this role; rather, she’s now in the Read More …

Ummm… Shake Weight, Anyone?

I might be a little late with this – Ellen and John Stewart have already had a good laugh about this ad. But I might as well post it. It’s PUMPED full of very muscly guys who look like they’re, well, you know. It’s kind of erotic, actually. I have my doubts about the science behind this. Rapid movement like that looks like it might cause RSI but not actually Read More …

The G-Spot Is Connected To The Clitoris

There’s a part of me that’s still rather stunned that in 2010, people are conducting research into whether “the vaginal orgasm” exists. Because for a while now, I’ve held the opinion that the concept of the vaginal orgasm is nonsense, and not just because of that lovely 1970 feminist essay The Myth of the Vaginal Orgasm. For me, the idea was put to bed in 1999 when Dr. Helen O’Connell Read More …

60% of Cosmo Readers Have Watched Porn

I remember when I stopped reading Cosmopolitan in my first year of university. It was one of the best things I ever did. The endless fashion, diets and super-skinny models always left me feeling bad about myself so I decided that it would be best if I just disengaged from that aspect of “women’s culture.” It’s 20 years on and Cosmo hasn’t changed. Still, it’s a hugely popular magazine that Read More …

Who Knew That Creepy Bicycle Seat Sniffing Could Be So Sexy?

This is an ad for a perfume called “Vulva” which is apparently “the intimate scent of a beautiful woman” that a company has bottled “for your own smelling pleasure.” That’s right folks, these people are selling pussy smell in a jar. I have no idea what it smells like but they’re obviously keen to shift units via viral marketing. What to make of the above ad? It’s a bit like Read More …

Pro Porn Video Contest Winners

Violet Blue has announced the winners of her video contest at Our Porn Ourselves. Lexi Love’s discussion of porn in Times Square came first and the Ursulaorelse’s video (above), which I really like, came second. Ursula’s movie is short, sweet and does an excellent job of getting the message across. For The Girls was a sponsor of the contest. It’s great to see so many women come out in support Read More …