The Sydney Morning Herald today has an article discussing the Brazilian wax, declaring it to be “here to stay.” While the article doesn’t offer any new information, I found the 100+ comments to be rather fascinating. Specifically, the apparently overwhelming enthusiasm of male commenters towards waxing – and some serious negativity towards female body hair. Some examples:
“Brazilians are literally the best thing that has ever happened to the world. May it always be so.”
“Personally, I find it much nicer playing on a barren pitch than trying to navigate the Amazon. In fact – it’s a deal-breaker.”
“If I want to see hair on a womans body I will grow a moustache.”
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“Women should at least trim their pubic hair, it’s a huge turn off when you see a forest down there.”
Perhaps the worst comment was this:
“A small landing strip is fine but in this day and age any more than that is just basically unkempt. You won’t hear many men saying that they want more hair down there and I can assure you in my circles (early 40’s) more than a landing strip is frowned upon by the boys. So to those who are living in denial, stop being lazy and SORT IT OUT.”
I find it rather disturbing to think that, according to the standards of these men, a woman should regularly pay large amounts of money to have her pubic hair ripped out, otherwise she’s unattractive, unclean, lazy and unkempt. I’m really hoping that this attitude is not becoming widespread amongst men. Pity younger women who may not have the confidence to deal with that kind of sexual expectation and so accede to requests to depilate, even though it may not be their preference.
And I should say, I’m not against pubic hair waxing per se. Many women say it makes the pubic area feel more sensitive and they feel more confident about receiving oral sex. Some men also say they prefer bare skin because it’s easier to give cunnilingus and that does seem to be a reasonable claim to make.
But jeez. We’re meant to have body hair. It’s natural and normal. And it should always be a woman’s choice whether she keeps it or removes it. Any guy that says its a “deal breaker” is obviously so selfish he’s not going to be much good in bed anyway. And any guy who considers natural body hair to be a sign of laziness or lack of hygiene is clearly someone who has bought into the impossible ideas of the beauty myth, is ignorant of reality and will be impossible to please, therefore also crap in bed.
And I believe all such demands for hair removal should be met with a strong reply of: “You first mate. I hear the local salon does a great crack, back and sack wax.”
Interestingly, the comments section of that article has thrown up anecdotal evidence that women aren’t so keen on depilation after all:
“I’m a doctor and I can tell you that Brazilian waxes are not as common as the media portays. I see human bodies in all shapes and sizes, across all age groups and it is only a very small minority (in my experience at my clinic) that follow this trend. Perhaps a lot of people talk the talk but do not walk the walk? Another observation I have made (again from my own personal experience in my clinic) is that it is generally only undertaken by young woman (up to the mid twenties). Even amongst the young woman in their thirties that I see, the number of Brazilians are very low.”
It would seem there’s a discrepancy between the hype of the media (and porn) and what is happening in the real world. I hope the wax-eager studs of this world realise they’re in for a lot of “deal breaking”.
In case you’re wondering – I’m a furry princess. I hate pain and I don’t even wax my eyebrows, let alone anything else. Sometimes I shave my legs and armpits and sometimes I don’t. Thankfully my equally furry spouse loves me just the way I am, so this issue doesn’t come up often. But if I was single, I think I’d be echoing the thoughts of these female commenters:
“Nope, never getting a brazilian done. If the sight of trimmed & maintained pubic hair sends a man running, good riddance.”
“And as for getting rid of pubic hair – what a load of marketing bunkum. If you have to rely on hairless pubic bones for good sex, then you can’t be doing it right.”
Hear hear!
Oh the body hair issue. I think there is a skewed aspect to the comments on this sort of article. The kind of guy that will make a demand on a womankind for how our pubic hair should be is so much more likely to be obnoxious enough to post that arrogant manure online, whereas men that want a woman the way she wants to be are less likely to be mouthing off about it publicly. So it falsely appears that pro-bald is the predominant opinion. I have come across men who like it bald, and women who like to be bald in pretty much equal numbers to those who go the other way and those who switch it up. I loooove my bush and I love hair on a woman, but most of all I want a woman who knows what she wants and ooozes sexual confidence. I have given plenty of cunnilingus to both natural girls and those who have all their hair ripped out with hot wax and it really makes very little difference to my abilities to get them coming in my mouth or to how much I enjoy that. I have met men that think it is a deal breaker but my underarms are natural too so it’s unlikely their kind would even approach me sexually…nor could they handle me if they did.
I had a contradictory experience with a doctor though. A female doctor at a sexual health clinic I was getting my regular STD checks from was surprised to find I had a wild (or unkempt if you like) bush. I think I made her day when I announced that I love my cunt untamed.
I see I’m a bit late to the conversation but…
The anti-hair attitude is by no means universal among us guys. You’ll find many of us are perfectly fine with, and even prefer, the natural untouched look. I imagine many of the rest are just “in the closet” about it.
And Liandra: wow! I wish the world had more of you (if it could handle it 😉