I was contacted the other day by a woman who asked me if I would consider publishing a male masturbation video featuring a guy who had not consented to the film’s distribution.
I wrote back and said that I was only interested in legal content and that if the guy in question did not know he was about to become an online porn star then that was unethical and illegal and very, very bad.
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The woman replied saying:
I discovered that my boyfriend who I had been dating for almost 6 months is gay. I read some of his emails and found out that he was only using me for his “public image.” He doesn’t want anyone to know he’s gay. This explains a lot since we never slept together.
I am so angry with him and all I want to do is expose him for what he is. He doesn’t know what I know, yet, and he thinks we are still together although I still see him at times and we go out. Don’t get me wrong. I have nothing against alternative lifestyles and such but he deceived me and he deceived my friends and family and I hate him for it. I am hoping someone can help me with something simple. It’s not illegal what I want done. He will basically and stupidly expose himself under false pretense. I will explain more of what I want if you might be interested.
No, dear, I’m not interested. And yes, it is illegal.
Porn should never, ever be for revenge. It doesn’t matter who did what to whom or how broken your heart may be, private videos should remain private and sexually explicit home videos should never, ever be published on the internet or elsewhere without the express (and written) consent of those involved.
And beyond the general nastiness behind this kind of behaviour, it’s this kind of shit that gives porn such a bad name. I want porn to be about love and pleasure and intimacy and sharing and all those good things that make us enjoy sex. It should NEVER ever be about hatred or jealousy or violence or revenge. This is why I’ve always refused to promote “reality” sites.
I also wanted to post this as a reminder to all those considering making their own home sex movie. Be VERY VERY careful who you make porn with. And make sure you both sign something promising that it remain forever private, on pain of severe legal action.
Oh lordy. I’m glad you tried to talk some sense into her. I hope she’s able to take a step back, read this, and realize how awful what she’s considering truly is.
it’s not mine is it?? because I’m not gay 🙂
yikes, nice that she’s been reading his emails… if she paid that much attention to him, she might have figured it out.
scary people out there!