How Sex With Your Head In A Toilet Bowl Can Be OK

Brooklyn, the haughty, dominant lesbian pauses in her frantic fisting and then whispers in the ear of Vai, her moaning, submissive female partner. She points to the toilet her lover is leaning on. “Do you want to put your head in there?” Vai, panting and flushed as the result of several gushing orgasms, looks a little hesitant. “Is it clean?” she asks. Brooklyn nods. And so the eager submissive lifts Read More …

Alien Nipples And “Adults Only” Hair Sex

SPOILER ALERT: Warning! This post is about the film Avatar and may contain spoilers. Stop reading now if you haven’t seen it. Also, stop reading now if your find the idea of alien nipples or hair sex disturbing. I finally saw James Cameron’s Avatar yesterday and I quite liked it. The visual imagery was stunning but I found the plot a little derivative and unoriginal. Where Titanic made me cry Read More …

I’m Not Really A Sex Blogger

On Friday SBS Australia screened a Channel 4 documentary called The Sex Blog Girls which originally aired in the UK in late 2007. The doco primarily looks at the story of The Girl With A One Track Mind, the sex blogger who was notoriously outed by the press in 2006 when her book was released. I’ve long admired the Girl and have been the grateful recipient of a link from Read More …

“Virginity Is A Huge Lie”

The Huffington Post has a great interview with Jessica Valenti, founder of Feministing, about the rise of the “virginity cult” in the US, specifically among Evangelical Christians, and how it is symptomatic of a larger push towards removing women’s rights. Oh, I definitely think that virginity is a myth. I think that virginity is a huge lie. Having your first sexual encounter certainly is important, and I don’t mean to Read More …

Female Desire Is A Paradox… Get Used To It

The Independent has a he-said, she-said article discussing women and desire. Much of it rehashes the New York Times article from a couple of weeks ago, but I felt the need to blog these two paragraphs, just because I liked the sentiment. So female desire can be a paradox – as Prof Chivers reports, we may want to be ravished roughly in an alley and also want someone who can Read More …

Walking Into The Forest Of Female Desire

The New York Times has an extensive article on research into female desire and lust, profiling the hardworking scientists who are studying this relatively new field of human sexuality (i.e. nobody’s bothered to look into what turns women on. Go figure.) What I found really interesting was the discussion about how the old ideas of romance and relationships aren’t what really get the juices flowing. It’s being lusted after that Read More …

The Naked Truth About Lust

I’m a bit late with this article but I do love what it’s saying: that women enjoy perving just as much as men. The tiresome myth that women are not as visually aroused as men is used to justify everything from sexual assault to double standards about public toplessness, and it’s time to kill it dead. If the oceans of female drool spilt over Obama (and Daniel Craig and Jude Read More …

Naomi Wolf’s Feminism Disappears Behind The Veil

Well, I think Naomi Wolf has lost it. I was less than impressed with her endlessly-repeated article about porn which relied heavily on assumptions about what men think. And I was also puzzled by her fascination with the idea that Jewish Orthodox modesty was “so hot.” Now she’s taken that concept and run with it, declaring that Muslim women are far freer in the expression of their sexuality while covered Read More …

The Girl Gives Good Advice

The Girl With A One Track Mind always gives good blog, and her latest post is no exception. In it she replies to the suggestion that she’s a fake because no “real” woman could have that many orgasms so easily. I liked this bit: Seriously (and ego aside) though, what’s with all the focus on MEN bringing WOMEN to orgasm? Isn’t there enough pressure on men already? What about women Read More …

“Why Women Hate Porn” (And Why They Like It)

The Ask Sam blog at the Sydney Morning Herald has published this post entitled “Why Women Hate Porn.” Unfortunately the article doesn’t actually discuss the whys and wherefores of any negative female reactions to porn. Rather it points out recent statistics that one in three Australian women regularly watch porn. And then the author asserts that women have taken up porn watching because it’s trendy, or because they want to Read More …

Is It “Breast Nudity” Or Is It “Top Free”?

I fondly remember the genuine quirkiness of the first episode of Malcolm In The Middle, mainly because of the opening scene when Malcolm’s mother Lois answers the door topless. Caroline: I’m here because I think there is a tremendous opportunity for Malcolm. Could you maybe put a top on? Lois: They’re just boobs, lady. You see ’em in the mirror every morning, and I’m sure yours are a lot nicer Read More …

Porn For Women – The Backlash

Something has been bugging me for a long time now, so I’m going to have a little rant about it. It seems that there are a lot of people out there who don’t like the term “porn for women.” I realise this – and I’ve discussed the ins and outs of it plenty of times on the blog. But I’m just gonna have to talk about it again. The thing Read More …

Sex 2.0 And A Sense Of Isolation

This weekend Amber Rhea’s Sex 2.0 conference was held in Atlanta, Georgia. It was attended by various blogging luminaries like Dacia and Rachel Kramer Bussell and was a general discussion of feminism, sexuality and the internet. It looked very cool and various posts are appearing about the event as I write. Thing is, though, I wasn’t there. Once again, living in Australia means that I miss out on all these Read More …

The “Ugly” Conundrum

Violet Blue’s SF column this week, Ugly Violet, and her subsequent blog post has really struck a chord with me. She writes about the way comment trolls dismiss women because of their appearance and the body image issues women have in our culture. This is a conversation we need to be having and one I considered writing about a while ago. I must admit, I never got around to doing Read More …