{"id":268,"date":"2007-01-23T18:10:33","date_gmt":"2007-01-23T08:10:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.msnaughty.com\/blog\/2007\/01\/23\/interview-with-ell-from-wilful-damage\/"},"modified":"2007-01-23T18:10:33","modified_gmt":"2007-01-23T08:10:33","slug":"interview-with-ell-from-wilful-damage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/msnaughty.com\/blog\/2007\/01\/23\/interview-with-ell-from-wilful-damage\/","title":{"rendered":"Interview With Ell From Wilful Damage"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Ell'sThe wonderful Ell runs a very hot, very witty sex blog called Wilful Damage<\/a>, which has received numerous rave reviews and has many fans. She also Australian, something of a rarity in the sex blog world.<\/p>\n

I contacted Ell last year to see if she wanted to be involved in my feature about sex blogging for For The Girls. Unfortunately a combination of Christmas holidays and spam filters meant things went pear shaped and I wasn’t able to include her input before my deadline.<\/p>\n

Now, however, I’m pleased be able to feature this interview with Ell here on my blog. If you haven’t visited her blog, I suggest you head over and enjoy her sexy writing and beautiful photos.<\/p>\n

What made you decide to start blogging about your sex life?<\/strong>
\nI like to write, the blog is an extension of that interest. It gave me a reason to approach writing in a more disciplined way but it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s still a light hearted and playful place for me to test out ways of exploring sexuality through words. I like to mix up fiction, random thoughts, passing fancies, snapshots and fantasy into a sort of \u00e2\u20ac\u0153box of bon bons\u00e2\u20ac\u009d approach to blogging.<\/p>\n

Can you sum in a few words what your blog is about?<\/strong>
\nI mostly muse about pleasure and the connection between sex and sexual pleasure and life. My blog also provides me a venue to showcase and support things I like and enjoy and at times it gives me an avenue to vent some of my vexation surrounding issues like censorship.<\/p>\n

Is anonymity important?<\/strong>
\nI\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m not sure exactly where I stand on anonymity at the moment. It\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s a pretty thin veil in my case. Writing frankly, without coyness, without revealing all is a challenge \u00e2\u20ac\u201c sometimes that frustrates me but sometimes a level of anonymity is liberating. Writing is an exhibitionist activity.<\/p>\n

Has your blogging ever interfered with your relationship?<\/strong>
\nNo, not that I can think of. If anything I think it helps my relationship. Writing gives me a sense of completeness that makes me very happy and that happiness feeds into the pleasure of being with my sweetheart. I am blessed with a generous lover who enjoys my sexual appetite.<\/p>\n

How do you deal with comments and emails?<\/strong>
\nWhen I first started blogging I had my email up, I had no idea about \u00e2\u20ac\u0153spiders\u00e2\u20ac\u009d trawling for email addresses and ended up with a lot of spam. I also ended up with a couple of readers who wanted to be closer to me than I wanted to be with them.<\/p>\n

At the moment, beloved provocateurs and friends have my email and others just ask through my comments if they feel they want to be in contact \u00e2\u20ac\u201c it seems to work well enough.<\/p>\n

I did have one fellow take me to task in my comments over my penchant for beautiful gay boys. I was a bit hurt by that. I replied to him that his behaviour was akin to coming into my home and telling me he hated the artwork I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122d hung on my walls. Which is fine, but it just didn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t seem very gracious. He was apologetic. <\/p>\n

I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m always very grateful for comments and I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m thrilled if something I write moves someone in some way, makes them laugh, or turns them on, or causes them to see the pleasure in their own lives more clearly. My readers are very generous and extremely kind with their feedback. I love them for that!<\/p>\n

Has sex blogging been good for you? What do you get out of it?<\/strong>
\nYes, I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122d say that blogging has been good for me. Writing causes me to reflect and sometimes distil a particular event and that clarification process brings its own pleasures. Like developing an \u00e2\u20ac\u0153eye\u00e2\u20ac\u009d in painting or photography, developing a \u00e2\u20ac\u0153writers eye\u00e2\u20ac\u009d helps me see more clearly. <\/p>\n

Through the net and blogging I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ve met wonderful artists, filmmakers, photographers, pornographers and writers, all delightfully sexual beings. I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ve picked up paid writing and editing work directly out of associations that grew from my blog and I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ve made some good friends.<\/p>\n

What are the positives and negative aspects of women blogging about sex?<\/strong>
\nI think there\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s still plenty of public reproach for sexually adventurous women or women who like to show off a little as witnessed by various \u00e2\u20ac\u0153outings\u00e2\u20ac\u009d of various writers. There have been times when I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ve felt a little too exposed. I guess there is an element of risk in writing about sex, and the notion that your thoughts are forever archived publicly can be a bit disconcerting or stymieing. For those reasons I don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t write or show all that I might but I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m not ashamed of things I write. My little blog is a celebration and in some ways it serves as an affirmation, or confirmation that it is possible to be a wife, a mother, have a professional life and be a sexual person. <\/p>\n

* Photo is one of Ell’s Half Nekkid Wednesday pics and one of my favourites. Courtesy of Wilful Damage blog.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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