{"id":2141,"date":"2010-11-01T18:42:30","date_gmt":"2010-11-01T08:42:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.msnaughty.com\/blog\/?p=2141"},"modified":"2010-11-01T18:42:30","modified_gmt":"2010-11-01T08:42:30","slug":"how-sex-with-your-head-in-a-toilet-bowl-can-be-ok","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/msnaughty.com\/blog\/2010\/11\/01\/how-sex-with-your-head-in-a-toilet-bowl-can-be-ok\/","title":{"rendered":"How Sex With Your Head In A Toilet Bowl Can Be OK"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Tight<\/a>Brooklyn, the haughty, dominant lesbian pauses in her frantic fisting and then whispers in the ear of Vai, her moaning, submissive female partner. She points to the toilet her lover is leaning on.<\/p>\n

\u201cDo you want to put your head in there?\u201d<\/p>\n

Vai, panting and flushed as the result of several gushing orgasms, looks a little hesitant. \u201cIs it clean?\u201d she asks.<\/p>\n

Brooklyn nods. And so the eager submissive lifts the lid and places her face into the toilet, her hair dropping into the water as Brooklyn fucks her hard with a strapon.<\/em><\/p>\n

When I started watching Tight Places, the new queer film from Good Releasing, I expected to see fisting, strapon sucking and female ejaculation, the sort of sex that is par for the course in this kind of authentic lesbian\/queer porn. What I didn\u2019t expect was a scene that raises questions about personal taste and provides grist for the debate surrounding the \u201cdegrading\u201d nature of pornography.<\/p>\n

Right now, anti-porn activist Gail Dines is touring the world, marketing her book that agues that porn has \u201chijacked men\u2019s sexuality.\u201d She maintains that the current crop of porn websites and movies is far more sexist and degrading to women than ever before. She cherry-picks examples from the dark alleys of internet porn to illustrate her point. One of the regular things she mentions are sites where women\u2019s heads are pushed into toilet bowls while they\u2019re fucked.<\/p>\n

How interesting, then, to encounter the very same sex act in a film that aims to be feminist, sex positive and queer- and female- friendly; a movie that features a cast of lesbians and trans-identified people but doesn\u2019t star a single straight man. <\/p>\n

Clearly, this movie is not following Gail Dines\u2019 script.<\/p>\n

I must confess to being more than a little squicked out by the scene itself. Watching someone being fucked while their head is in a toilet bowl is definitely not my bag, baby. Indeed, I found it to be rather disturbing, perhaps because this act has so many negative connotations involved. For a start, it\u2019s just not a nice physical position to be in, as most of us who\u2019ve suffered bad hangovers can attest. It\u2019s hard to put yourself in her place and not feel a little, well, nauseous.<\/p>\n

Beyond that, it has very negative philosophical associations. I\u2019ve only ever seen it in porn that\u2019s very abusive and hateful towards women \u2013 exactly the kind of porn that Gail Dines says is \u201cstandard\u201d in the industry (not really true, but that\u2019s an argument for another day). I\u2019ve always found those sites to be pretty disgusting and avoided them if possible, so it\u2019s confronting to find this kind of thing in a female-friendly movie. It took me out of the moment, making me analyse the politics of it all rather than simply enjoying the scene.<\/p>\n

And the politics are pretty interesting. Because this scene is a perfect example of how consent and intent make all the difference.<\/p>\n

Though I was personally turned off by the sex act portrayed, there is actually nothing wrong with the scene itself. Both performers consented to being in the scene and, once it\u2019s underway, Vai voluntarily puts her head in the toilet bowl. Indeed, it seems to increase her physical pleasure by ramping up the psychological arousal. Her partner may have done it to degrade her but the intent is benign; Brooklyn seeks to get her partner off rather than to exert power or make her look or feel bad.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s an important difference and one that pro-porn feminists are doing their best to illustrate. It\u2019s not the sex acts that are important, it\u2019s the ethics of consent and how the performers are treated. <\/p>\n

If the goal is consensual female pleasure, who cares how the results are achieved?
\n—-<\/p>\n

The rest of my review of Tight Places<\/em> appears at For The Girls this week. In case you’re wondering, I did enjoy the rest of it – the sex is authentic and hot.<\/p>\n

I watched Tight Places<\/a><\/em> courtesy of Good Vibrations<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Brooklyn, the haughty, dominant lesbian pauses in her frantic fisting and then whispers in the ear of Vai, her moaning, submissive female partner. She points to the toilet her lover is leaning on. \u201cDo you want to put your head in there?\u201d Vai, panting and flushed as the result of several gushing orgasms, looks a little hesitant. \u201cIs it clean?\u201d she asks. Brooklyn nods. And so the eager submissive lifts Read More …<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6,14,16],"tags":[912,357,915,919,791],"class_list":["post-2141","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-feminism","category-porn","category-porn-movies","tag-feminism","tag-gail-dines","tag-porn","tag-sexuality","tag-tight-places"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/msnaughty.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2141","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/msnaughty.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/msnaughty.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/msnaughty.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/msnaughty.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2141"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/msnaughty.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2141\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/msnaughty.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2141"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/msnaughty.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2141"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/msnaughty.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2141"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}